I spent time with a dear friend recently. She believes that a big contributor to her present peaceful state is a new loving-kindness practice.
The practice generally seeks to spread ease and joy to those we love, those who bug us, and by extension to all the world. One of the most powerful aspects, she explained, was that the first step extends those things to oneself.
Loving-kindness can be promulgated with meditation and other ways. The spoken parts of the meditations tend to go along the lines: ‘May I be safe, may I be happy, may I be healthy, may I live with ease.’ Then these requests are directed towards others.
Coincidentally, a few months ago I heard about the ancient Hawaiian ‘prayer’ of Ho’oponopono. This does something similar, by sending forgiveness and love to those we care about and/or those we don’t.
I read that the concept has been widespread through Polynesia. The wording goes something like this: ‘I’m sorry, Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.’
A fellow coach who introduced this told me about how her partner, not usually a big “woo woo” guy, surprising her: “He casually asked me if my week had been going well. ‘Well yes!’ I answered, enumerating all the ways that things had functioned better than usual. He smirked and said ‘I’ve been sending you Ho’oponopono all week!’”
Now whether you believe these things have effect or not, I’m noticing their power among people I know and trust. Claims are made that these practices do reduce cortisol (stress hormone) in those regularly using them, and other scientific results.
If you’re interested, examples are easily found on Google and You Tube.
If you’re looking for peace in your life, look up a practice and try it.
Let me know if this works for you. I’d love to hear.
Peace by force?
Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding. – Albert Einstein
If your mind is at peace, but you have nothing else, you can be happy. If you have everything the world can give – pleasure, possessions, power – but lack peace of mind, you can never be happy. - Dada Vaswani