The second night of our big storm last week was wild and woolly. Rain was pouring, winds were whipping, I stayed inside with our pets, watched TV, and went to bed quite happily.
Mark ducked out to check the back road, which often floods in a downpour. He mentioned a few cars were pulling away, which struck him as a little strange.
Only the next day, chatting to the neighbor we share a wall with, did we hear that the police had banged on his door at 9pm, saying “Evacuate”. He’s lived here 20 years so he did his own assessment and thought, ‘no, we’ll be OK’.
Whether police tried our door and we didn’t hear, or else they saw no lights because our living area is at the back of a long narrow semi, we’ll never know.
Bottom line? We made it through perfectly safely. And I’m glad to have avoided any of that potential anxiety.
This was no ordinary storm, people drowned north of Sydney, and houses went filmed floating down streets. The authorities have to be on the safe side, but in this case oblivion suited me fine. I was relaxed and didn’t expend any energy worrying.
Was that peace, or hibernation?
Was it a calm so deep it was dangerous? Was it an unaware fog or was it healthy selection of data?
Editing out distractions
I have been cutting down a range of intrusive factors in recent years:
- stepping away from being totally up with the news
- delving into peaceful techniques and practices
- learning to better manage my energy
- doing less driving/travelling at rush hour
Partly this came from trying to beat insomnia and partly from simplifying my world to fit more good stuff into it, such as:
- being present
- appreciating current moments
- ‘allowing’ instead of ‘pushing’
- asking for and then receiving good things that come to me from outside solely my own endeavours
I still gnawed over this point a bit – had I got to the stage where I was lapsing into a kind of dream state that would be potentially harmful. Was I so disconnected to real events that they could lead me and mine into harm’s way?
The answer My answer came from a short discussion with a friend and fellow coach. It was answer enough for me anyway. She said she was sure that I would have received a message from somewhere – the universe, anywhere – if danger really had been at hand. I’d like to think that too. What a great perspective.
Perhaps what I experienced wasn’t oblivion, just a healthy disconnection to panic and over-dramatics and a useful connection to Chanel Calm.
Useful Please note, talking with a coach or friend can often provide the perspective and answers you need. Give me a call if that’s me for you right now. I have some great programs coming up, so get in now before the calm breaks.
This TED talk may provide a helpful addition to last blog’s theme about the Meanies within. In it Guy Winch talks about how to practice emotional hygiene. Thanks for this, Alex!